Recently one of our nieces posted this beautiful photo and tribute to her grandmother:
“She stands for the better when times are worse, itching away the scratchiness of pains and burning body aches, daring to venture where love is hard-pressed to find. She places her most tender affections in a fried chicken dinner and a legacy of sugar cookie dough. She makes home a beautiful place, yet it is she who is the most exquisite home. Happy birthday to the loveliest of them all. You are the essence of love and faithfulness and deserve to be honored. Love you Grandmama.”
I’ve known Pat for many years. Sweet, gentle, always a smile and a giggle playing on her face. We first crossed paths the first Easter that Luke and I were dating. Pat walked into my future in-law’s house with a pan of Watergate Salad. I’ve appreciated her, and that Watergate Salad recipe, ever since. In fact, it’s one of our daughter’s favorites now so Pat’s name is never far from my mind when I make it for Sophia.
This is the heart of The Lois Project: Living life in such a way that love produces fruit and faith in grandchildren. And, that it comes natural. Never forced.
You can’t have a personal agenda if you want to do this successfully. Kids can smell a fake a mile away. If grandparents are trying to pass on their faith simply to check something off their to-do list, it will backfire. Passing on a legacy should be intentional with God’s Agenda in mind:
“Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, O God, till I declare your power to the next generation, Your might to all who are to come.” Psalm 71:18
Old and gray might symbolize “retirement” in some cultures, but not in the Kingdom! God’s assignment for you, dear grandparent, is to declare (that means to share!) the incredible things you have seen God do over the years. I encourage you to get as good as Jesus when it comes to storytelling. It’s a powerful means of passing on the power of God to the next generation. Share it verbally. Write it down. Just share!
The bedrock of Psalm 71:18 is relationship. Get to know your grandkids. What do they like? What interests them. Really listen to them. It doesn’t matter what age they are, you can do this. Pray and ask God what to share with each of them.
The real work might just be REMEMBERING the stories you should share. Pray and ask God to access all those memories he wants you to pass along. I’m running into more and more grandparents who are writing these stories down for their grandkids. Computers make it so easy now to publish a simple document of faith.
Would you be interested in praying for your grandchildren with other grandparents? We are exploring this as an option to help you in your journey. If so, send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with “Lois Project Prayer” in the subject line, or drop us a line in the mail. We strongly believe your role in prayer is crucial to seeing healthy families worldwide. That’s the true work of SureFire Prayer!
My blogs coming up will turn toward my trip to India, February 5-18. I will be leading some training and consulting for a jaw surgery I desperately need. I’ll be posting on my personal page and the SureFire Prayer Facebook page as well if you would like to follow along.
In closing, I don’t think it’s ever too early to start praying about living out the Lois Project. I think I’m going to start praying for God to start a “Lois Project story file” in my heart so when those grandkids come along one day, I’ll be ready. Psalm 71:18 is within reach for all of us.
Paige Kolb is the president of SureFire Prayer International, a ministry that equips and trains families and leaders to practically bring biblical truth and prayer back into everyday life. Paige’s philosophy: “Healthy families make for healthy churches. I believe worldwide revival will be released when we help leaders and parents rediscover practical ways to bring prayer back into today’s busy homes.” Paige was once a writer for CNN and on-air correspondent for CNNRadio. She is a wife to her supportive husband, Luke, and mom to two amazing kids. You may contact her at here to find out about her speaking, training, and travel schedule.