Recently, I shared how our son got his first smartphone. He promptly decided to make some DUMB decisions about his use of time on his device. It was quickly taken away. I’m a firm believer that when we get a new toy, we can go hog wild. It’s the nature of things. Just don’t let it affect your grades….or your integrity.
A recent conversation with a ministry leader revealed that youth pastors are noticing a devastating trend:
Parents, may I suggest we not leave youth pastors to deal with these trends on their own? It’s the PARENT’S responsibility to lock the modern day saloon door called the smartphone. Would you really let your child walk into a saloon where there’s drinking, smoking, gambling, prostitution, and fighting? Of course not! So, become the sheriff in your “home” town and curb the access your kids have to the internet. This is one way we can partner with pastors to protect the integrity of our children. It’s our job!
As far as the homosexuality and pronoun use…I’m praying through that one, because I personally have no answer. Maybe one of you do and can post a comment below. We need a healthy dialogue on this. In the meantime, let’s be praying about it. Heavenly Father, give us all Scriptures and a godly approach to this insanity. Give us wisdom in how to help our kids navigate this upended mindset so our children’s identities as male and female stays intact.
For today, let’s revisit the cellphone issue… I don’t pretend to be an expert in this area. My job is to point you to good resources as parents and leaders who want to be proactive instead of reactive. Remember Wait Until 8th? Life360 Family Locator is another good one.
Adam has his phone back now with a few more safeguards. We put app tracker Qustodio on all our phones, and we REALLY LIKE the service. We opted for the paid version so we can see exactly where our son is surfing and HOW LONG he is spending on certain sites. It will even tell you when they search bad or disturbing words.
I challenge you to make this a family affair. Let your child see how you are spending your screen time. Model self-control and how you are using self-discipline to keep yourself in check. Hold each other accountable….and encourage one another– and all the more as you see the Day approaching (Hebrews 10:25).
It’s quickly approaching.
Paige Kolb is the president of SureFire Prayer International, a ministry that equips and trains families and leaders to practically bring biblical truth and prayer back into everyday life. Paige’s philosophy: “Healthy families make for healthy churches. I believe worldwide revival will be released when we help leaders and parents rediscover practical ways to bring prayer back into today’s busy homes.” Paige was once a writer for CNN and on-air correspondent for CNNRadio. She is a wife to her supportive husband, Luke, and mom to two amazing kids. You may contact her at here to find out about her speaking, training, and travel schedule.
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